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Monday, June 21, 2010

Father's Day Weekend!

On Friday I went over to my parents house, we had steak, corn, patoto salad and beans. All my favorites. We really chatted alot, I always like chatting with my parents for hours. Hayden was asleep and My parents showed me their new computers and we hung out for a little bit.
Saturday morning was the best, Hayden, my Mom and I went shopping!! The goal was to get me some new clothes. Let me tell you their were deals at Kohls. It was awesome! And my Mom was the sweetest person ever. She said that she wanted me to get some clothes and that I couldn't wait till September. I need stuff for the camping trip but also I needed more clothes in geneal. I got several shirts. And I got 2 capris, one pair of jean shorts and one pair of khackis. I was so happy, then Mom made me even more happy. She took me in to get my wedding ring resized. I was not even a size 4 before I got pregnant. Now, I'm at size 6. I can't wait to have it back and on my finger, it will be in on Saturday. We also went to Bed Bath and Beyond and I got a couple of things there. I was finally able to get my photo wallet sleeve so that I can show off my cute baby boy even more, instead of cell phone.
We got home at 4 and started making homemade Laszanga, and then we were going to play croquet but we ended up playing with Hayden. WhenErik arrived, Mom and I surprised the guys with our pictures of Hayden that were taken last weekend. And the best part is that I'm not only going to have new pictures of him, but I will have a chance to show off my boy some more. WE had a fablous dinner, then later we ended up watching the second Harry Potter it was almost midnight and Erik and I headed out.
On Sunday morning it was time to clean and get caught up on laundry. We had so much laundry to do. While I was in there I found saw water all over the shower and on the floor around the toilet along with water soaked onto the carpet. We have a leak that's gotten worse with our toilet and it's going to need to be fixed! I don't know if I mentioned but Erik and I are renewing another lease with the apartment building so were getting a new fridge and stove. It will be black, new and better. I can't wait!! So, when they do that they'll fix that too.
Later in the afternoon we had lunch and then all took a nap. Erik's Dad was coming over at 4. So, did Fathers Day with Erik, gave him what Hayden made at the daycare and I got Erik a really nice coffee mug. Erik's Dad came over on time, we chatted for a bit and headed out to the pool for Hayden first swim in a pool. WE had the float that was really pink, it was really funny. But, his Dad really enjoyed it and bonding with Hayden. We got him use to the water a bit, and then we got back Erik and him made dinner while I took care Hayden. We then ate and watched a movie: Up in the Air, it was a really good movie!! It was about 11:00 and Erik and I were beat we started watching another movie: IRobot and then headed off to bed! It was a great weekend! It's sad it had to end but I know that I need to enjoy the week.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Disappointment!

Last night I was informed by Erik that according to the budget I wasn't going to be able to buy any clothes or anything at this time. The deal was that when we got paid, we were going to have additional $1,500 but when it's all said and done, I would be able to go get $150.00 in clothes and $75 was my birthday money. It was bought to my attention we need every last penny for expenses, and there no room to buy anything luxury related. However, I came to that conclusion with Erik advising me of it but, I'm tired of him finding a way to buy what he wants. When it comes down to it, I'm suppose to accept when I want something, it's just not in the budget.
Erik was discussing with me how it was going to be a hard summer and very tight and how Hayden is costing a lot and there's no way to afford everything. Well my frustrastion sets in because he not only doesn't budget well, but he insisted that he needs to continue to work the budget. The bankruptcy screwed us over big time. WE received a good chunk of money from Federal but we won't see it, We have to pay them over 1/2 of the amount. Not to mention we have so many medical bills. Erik and I have given up on how we can figure out to pay them. We just don't have any money to pay for even $10 a month. And, the letters are getting nastier and nastier.
So, all of these thoughts are going through my head, then we really need to be looking at what were spending, and since Erik chooses not to see what obviously right infront of us. That we need reconsider on some purchases and such. Such as, next month is the camping trip with Erik's Dad, we both were going to take an occurence for it, and had it planned my parents would watch him on the weekend. But, that the expense was a little high and maybe it would be more cost effective if Erik just goes. He said that we made a promise and we will just borrow the money from his Dad, I really don't want to that considering we won't be able to pay him for a while. Then later on I tell him that as hard as it is to face it. Hawaii will be very expensive, and that we may want to rethink going. Especially since he saids we will have a house next year. You know how long I've heard that. What makes him think are situation will be all better by next year? I don't see how it can. Were digging ourselves deeper and deeper by going on a grand vacation. He then said well" No, we made a commintment to my Mom" here's the thing the day isn't final. She is the one paying for her room, and Beth, Damion and Greg ( sister in law, nephew and her BF are going) so there's no investment that will be lost just because were not going. And you would think that he would be relieved that I'm not very upset that were not going. Because, I 've never been there, But, Erik has been there 3 times. (he likes to claify that he hasn't been there as an adult) I don't why excepted a postive reaction. No, he acts just the opposite. He starts saying" No, were going and you wanted a baby" Ok, what the hell does that have to do with our budget. Seriously, he brought that up several times. Like, we shouldn't of had a baby, or you wanted it. I'm so tired of it, it's making me resentful of him and then I try to handle it by talking to him and he starts saying: I don't want to talk about it right now, My question is why does it matter when we talk about something, I shouldn't have to tip toe around a subject just because he doesn't want to face it.
I end up going to bed last night before 11 because he was in one of his moods and I wasn't willing to argue about something that I knew we wouldn't see eye to eye on.
I woke up this morning, he just wanted to hug me. And we did say I love you. He tells me maybe we should go to cousnselor again, or maybe he should.
Then I get into work and he said that he knows he not a perfect man and he's trying to be. And he's really sorry he's been hard to deal with. All I could say is you're welcome. But, what I have thinking about at work is not only to have serious concerns about Erik but, I have serious concerns for our future.
He needs to grow up and realize that his needs aren't in front of everything else just because he wants them to be.
There's so many things that our forming under the surface, that he needs to face and we need to pick up the pieces and move on. I'm also tired of seeing him get the things he wants and I'm actually having a need and I'm being turned down, and his attitude, his disregard for my feelings is enough for me to explode. I really feel sometimes my depression starts because of his actions. I am not having a good day at all. I am trying to forget about things, but I go back to this is something I can control. The thing is that a divorce would not solve it infact it would bring into such a deep depression that I'm not sure what I would do. I love Erik so much, and I pray to god that he realizes were I'm coming from. I'm trying to be patient. I just don't know how much more I can take.

****UPDATE*** Erik and I talked last night, He's alarmed by the way he speaks to me and realizes that he needs to see someone and talk it over. I'm really hoping his attitude will start to improve. We still agree to disagree on a couple of the issues. But atleast were making progress. I still don't think we should go to Hawaii. But, I'm hoping he sees it as well. As far as camping that looks like that's still a go. And, i'm getting a couple of things to tie me over for clothes, however I have an IOU coming to me in August-September. I can't wait I'm doing some major shopping at that point. And Hayden included!!**********

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

~Mirena~Frustrastion!

I had my doctors appointment to place my Mirena in, I really felt uneasy about not seeing Dr Cho. I had to see Dr. Song. Which in all of 10 years I still hadn't met her, I had seen everyone else, and felt pretty comfortable. But, before I could even see her I went through a huge hassle. First off, I got there right on time at 3pm, I waited about 10 minutes in the lobby, then they brought me back. I waited some more because there was no rooms available. When I got into the room after waiting another 15 minutes out in the lab area. Then the nurse wanted to ask me questions. She was worried that I might be pregnant, that there was possible small chance that I was. Because my Depo shot was good till the 20th of May. And I had sex on May 31st. So, she had to do a urine test, it did come out negative but it didn't stop the dr. from hesitating to do the procedure that I had already waited a month to do. (that's a whole another story that we don't have time for) So, she finally said will go ahead and do the procedure, after going back and forth for another 10 minutes. She doesn't really tell me how it's going to feel, or what she's doing. All of sudden I feel this major pressure down there, and it felt worse than a pap. She had a clamp and then she said finally oh yes, I'm measuring your cervix. I then felt to extreme pressure, and all of sudden I had cramping. I couldn't breathe. It was awful. She didn't tell me I"m almost done or anything. I felt she was so focused on making sure it was right that she forgot to talk me though the procedure. Oh, and as she sticking the Mirena and I was in pain, not screaming but saying ah, that hurts, She said "oh do you not want to go on with the procedure" I'm like no please just finish. I started to get really hot and light headed. Which to make matters worse she said right after the procedure was done that she didn't feel it was in all the way, and that I should schedule and ultrasound in a couple of days. And if I feel discomfort more than usual that I need to come in right away. The next 10 minutes were awful, as this thing isn't in all the way I lay back cramping and in major pain, She said let me see my other patient that is waiting and I will come back. I have my legs wide open and I'm on the bed or whatever and she doesn't get the door shut all the way. I couldn't believe it. The nurse comes in and really helps me through everything. I was so relived to have her there with me. She gave me a cold pack for my head, some juice and asked me about what part was uncomfortable I said the clamp and her inserting it in. She said that the next one she would make sure was more comfortable. And also did I mention they had to order this for me. And there may not be anymore. Luckily when she came back they found a spare. The nurse suggested that I have a spinal sort of novocaine for me so I don't feel the procedure as much. I did feel a poke and cramping when she was applying the novocaine, but I was squeezing the nurse's hand and this time I didn't feel as much once I was numb. But, she pokes her head ( the doctor) and said" We found another so we won't charge you for 2" I'm thinking to myself yeah you better not charge me, it's not my fault.
I had to work my way up to sitting up because I was feeling dizzy. It was not the best experience. I'm relieved that it can stay in for years. If you had to this procedure all the time, it would be too hard.
Today I'm experiencing some cramping and bleeding. It's going to be painful for the next couple of days. But, I'm proud of myself, I did still go for a walk around the lake even though I was cramping really bad.
Oh to make matters worse Erik was angry with me last night because I wasn't feeling well, and when I was in the office I didn't really talk about pain managment. And why did I get this done, and that I should of stayed on the Depo or went on birth control pills. But, I really think this is the best decision. He was just really crabby in general which has something to do with that he wasn't worked out in days!!

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

My Birthday/Memorial Day weekend!

On Friday I was alone with Hayden, I did some cleaning but mostly was tired. I bought myself some Arbys and then took Hayden he was teething most of the night. I went to bed after a couple of hours of watching some soaps.

On Saturday morning Erik and I got up to take Hayden to the zoo for the first time, the big debate was to go to the Como Zoo or Minnesota Zoo, we went to the MN Zoo, Holy has the cost gone up in the last couple of years. It was 37.00 with parking. Suddenly going to the zoo isn't such a cheap family outing. Anyways, Hayden mostly slept the only time he was up is looking at people and he could see the big fish tank. He really enjoyed that. And so did I, I had forgotten how peaceful it is to just sit there and watch. We were at the zoo most of the afternoon, we didn't get moving till around 1pm. We were there till almost 5 and then we went to our favorite Mexican restaurant we had El Loro, and while eating our dinner really fast. Hayden was teething once again. Poor little guy. Erik, Hayden and I were so exhausted from the day that we all took a 3 hour nap. Then we got up. Erik and I watched It's Complicated. Pretty good movie by the way. WE also decided to watch Star Wars the 3rd one.

On Sunday I slept in while Erik watched Hayden. He got up and went out to eat for breakfast at the Pancake House. Great Place! We got home close to 1pm, And Erik and I had to get ready to go to my parents house for my birthday, Erik's and my Dad's birthday celebration (all of our birthday's are in May) We talked, then had a fabulous dinner. We had Steak, corn, beans, potato salad. It was awesome. I was so stuffed. WE had Boston cream pie for desert. We then decided to watch a movie we ended up watching the first Harry Potter, because my parents have them on blue ray but had never seen them before. We got done with the movie close to midnight and went home.

On Monday. MY birthday!!! Erik let me sleep in again. I got up and we watched America: The Story of Us on History channel. I've never been interested in History. But, all of sudden I am now. He went out and got me a pizza at Old Chicago. Then we took a little nap. I got back up around 2pm. I watched my soap. And, relaxed. Erik went to get groceries for my special dinner. And he got Amelia and Sherlock Holmes for us to watch. And he got me a really nice card. And of course Hayden was teething again. He was so exhausted he went to bed at 8:30.

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Big Waste of Time!

I was still sick on Friday last week. I had the coughing again, and it felt like the same irritation that I thought I was over with my first round of antibiotics. Turns out in the morning, Thank god I had the day off. I had the day off because it was Erik's b-day. Unfortunately, I had to go to the Dr's. office again. The only problem is that Dr. Hewitt wasn't in so, I had to see the same Dr that told me that my cough was just allergies. HAHA, now I can laugh. But, before I couldn't all I wanted to do is slap her that day. N*E*ways~ My story continues. Erik was a sweetie, he came with me to my appointment. My appointment was at 9:45, WE arrived on time, we checked in and they had me feel all new paperwork asked for my ID and my insurance card, because they went over electronically and needed for me to fill all new paperwork about privacy etc. Erik and I sat down, he had a patient who checked in at least 15 minutes after us and he was seen before us. I find out after waiting for nearly 30 minutes that they couldn't find what insurance I had even if my card, because of going electronic. In basic understanding she didn't read the card at all. So, that whole process took another 10 minutes, after the gal finally came up to me to ask what insurance I had. They then said OK we have that straightened out it shouldn't be much longer and we can get you seen.
Well, Erik was irritated at this point. His birthday was looking like being stuck in a doctor office all day. And, so it goes they finally bring me back. Mind you I've been to the doctors several times this year, and I even was with them last week. The nurse didn't bother to check, she wanted my weight and height and I'm hacking uncontrollably. She then gets my temp, she brings us in the room. She starts fiddling with the computer. Looking down at the keyboard, which to me is never a good sign. She starts getting my blood pressure, then she asked me ( now, let me get something clear, I'm coughing really hard and not feeling good at all) She said what are you hear for today? I said I'm coughing and I was here last week and still hasn't gotten better. She said " ahh hu, and what are you looking for in this visit?" Are you kidding me, I looking for relief you dumb idiot. Anybody could tell looking at me that I didn't feel good, not to mention I hardly had a voice. That's also why Erik went with me he wanted to make sure to advocate for me my needs. She then proceeds to go through my history from 2007 when I had antibiotics, (she's using the drug term) I have no clue, I only have a reticulation of them because I work for insurance company and I was just on the medication. She then saids are you still taking Yaz? and then I discuss I"m on the depo, then she's going through stuff that it's valid to my visit for the day. About my physical, and wanting to know when I had it or when I'm going to get it done. After going through all that crap, she said the Dr would be in shortly. So, here we are 25 minutes later the Dr finally See's me. She goes through and asks me what I'm doing. I don't even let her give me the questions. I said I've taken everything I was told to and went down the line with her. I even took out the medications out of my purse. Because for the last 2 weeks my purse was looking like a pharmacy! She then flat out pissed me off, because she could see that I came back and I said yes, the day after I saw you I got worse, I was coughing so hard and I couldn't talk, so there for I couldn't work. She said, "Oh, my goodness, I thought I prescribed you antibiotics, I said nope you didn't you said that it was allergies. She got defensive and started to argue. So, Erik stepped in and said that I had gotten worse with 24 hours, and what I was looking for is stronger antibiotics, which I had stated to her as well. This part really amazes me she did research of my symptoms online, was like I went through the correct procedure for what you have. She then goes " Humm" I could tell she had no idea why I was still not better, with getting a dose of antibiotics. I told her that I needed stronger ones, After arguing for the last 20 minutes she put in my prescription for stronger antibiotics. It was decided to some test to see if I had pneumonia or whooping cough. ( which by the way if you have ever had the test, it sucks they put these tubes way up your nose, so uncomfortable) ;(
But, she went out of the room to get a nurse to do the test for me, we waited another 10 minutes, not only could we hear them talking about another patient in the hall but they were sitting right out the room, just letting us wait after we had already waited long enough. The nurse came back, we did the test and were able to finally leave it was about 12:15 when we got out of the office.
All I can say is I wanted ring theirs necks, and Erik and I refuse to pay for the copay for that visit, He already called the billing manager and said he refused to pay it and they said yeah that was too long of a wait and they will waive the co-pay. Yeah justice is served!!

Monday, May 10, 2010

Just call me Sicko

Ok, so this getting old really quick. I was coughing last week off and on. Finally on Wednesday I decided it was time to make an appointment with the doctor. I ended up seeing a new doctor. She was so new that she was getting out her PDA to check off of her information of my symptoms, and not to mention she was looking at this little tiny book to reference medicines to give me. She told me it was allergies. I started to tell her in between my hacking that it wasn't allegries and that I had phelm and I felt awful. She just ingnored and prescribed me another inhaler, (atleast this one was a controlled one) However, when Erik came home with my prescricptions he said they didn't have the strength at the pharmacy so they made a call into the doctor. Are you kidding me? This is vital for me, and I get to spend another night breathing heavy. I was absoutely miserable, I could barely see straight. Erik said I don't care what they told you, you need to go back to the doctor tomorrow, I decided enough is enough and I went to see Dr Hewitt instead. He's my primary care doctor. And, sure enough he took one look at me and said it may have started as allegries. But that I was really sick and that it was time for some antibotics. I have a bacterial infection, that had to of gotten worse in the last day or so. Finally! I also got presribed a couple of other things. I ended up staying home from work both Thursday and Friday! I had almost lost my voice from all the coughing I also ended up with another ear infection. It was really bad on Friday night. Because the ear infection ends up throwing off a person's balance I was having a difficult time. I am on atleast 7 different medications right now. I'm hoping that this is it for the year. I had to take an occurence, miss work, now I can't take my hubby's birthday off. I'm really sad.
On Friday afternoon, I took my final exam for Psych. All I can say is I'm so glad that I'm all done with the semester. It's been rocky. The spring is the hardest. It's been a whole year since I've had a break now. I'm releived, I ended up getting a B for the class. So, now I will sit back. Hopefully lose some of this weight I'm carrying and stay well.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Ready for a break!!

I acomplish the impossible. Or atleast I thought it was impossible. With my Computer Applications course I passed! I got a C. That means I get to move on to the other class and move forward with my degree. I really didn't want to take the class over, plus I couldn't because I was all set up to take the intermidate one. And how I invested so much time only to take it over, and not to mention I would need to wait till next Spring and take it with the same professor.
Now, I have Psych to complete and I'm hoping to come out with a B for the class. I will have 2 successful grades for the semester. I am looking forward to the summer, more time with Hayden. More time with my hubby and time to work out.
I'm looking forward to having a needed break from all the stress. I just got and email from work about 2 open provider anyaslt positions. I'm considering on applying for it. I have to make a decision quick.
Now, I think it's funny, but as soon as finanical aid funds are accounted for they will give me my reward letter, I can't wait to get my books for the fall and dive into my studies early hopefully to prepare for another semester!!